What Women Want

After spending the past oh...12 years of my life with a man who has NOT given me what I want, and other recent events....I've been inspired to write about what we DO want. Granted this just one broken girl's opinion, but I can't imagine many women would disagree with most of this. So here you go....this (in my opinion) is what women want from a man.

- in the morning, there is no better way to start the day than a nice 'good morning beautiful'...or something else along these lines. Something THIS simple will ensure that your lady will start her day off with a smile.
- if you are gone to work or elsewhere all day (for 6+ hours away from her) CHECK IN! can be a simple text message, or phone call, whatever...just to let her know you remember she exists. I spent 12 years in a marriage where I NEVER got a phone call or text all day. It's not hard to do...will just take a minute.
-buy her gifts just because. These are the ones that matter the most. Doesnt' have to be anything huge, just something small to show her she is special to you.
- flowers. most women like flowers.BUT not all women like roses! Why do all men go with the standard 'dozen roses'?? find out what your woman's FAVORITE flower is. I bet if you gave her a SINGLE STEM of her FAVORITE flower, it would mean so much more than any giant amount of something that she doesn't care for as much. My favorite is purple or blue irises. I don't think he knew this the whole time.
-While your at it with her favorite flower, find out her other favorite things as well. Let's talk color here. One time, and this was YEARS ago...he actually bought me a gift. Bought me a robe. It was powder blue. I was happy he bought me something actually. Then he opens his big mouth. "they had it in red or blue..." SERIOUSLY?? my FAVORITE COLOR IS RED! I would have really been blown away by the red one...ugh...yeah guys this stuff matters.
-Foods...can you cook? Even something basic. Cook for her every once in a while. Why should she have to do it all? I cook EVERYTHING. Probably years ago maybe he tried every once in a while to cook for me, so i'll give him that. BUT...he has no idea my likes in food! I remember once he hands me a plate of french toast covered in cinnamon. I dont' like cinnamon on my french toast, never have, never will. Had he ever paid attention, he would have known that. IMPORTANT! pay attention to details like this! And if you don't KNOW for sure, don't do it. Do your homework!
-Suprises...suprises are nice. I wouldnt' know just how nice since I dont' know that I've ever been suprised. I always dream of being suprised though...
-take her out. dinner, a movie, dancing, a walk on the beach...whatever. just go out.dont' sit at home all the time. If she is totally enamoured by you...she wants to take you out and show you off ;)
-lets talk social media. since we all know we live in the age of facebook and twitter. Are you on facebook?? I used to leave special songs and stuff on his wall for him, to make him know and the rest of the world know how I felt. Never once did I get anything back. This is important. When we are in love, or maybe just the early stages even of meeting someone new that we are all wrapped up in, we do want the world to know. Leave her a nice note, or picture, or song, whatever, on her wall. Where everyone can see it. This sounds dumb...but it will make her smile from ear to ear, I promise ;) I am a woman,I know it would make my day...we like to show off guys! TRUST ME!

I think that covers alot of bases. I hope this is helpful to everyone. Men...read it.Study it. Do it! Nothing on here is hard to do! Women...if you agree with this, please share this with your men, give them a *hint hint!* Feel free to pass this around, I'd love to help educate everyone on just a few simple things that make the world a happier place. Let's face it...if a woman is happy well, everyone is happy right?!

Please leave me a comment letting me know how you feel about this post. The good, the bad and the ugly. Or if there is something you'd like me to add, there is always room for edits!

My life in song

I've always been a huge music lover. Music speaks to me. When I hear a song, I relate to it...you know? So much has been going on in my life lately, and I haven't been able to find the words to talk about any of it, so I'm going to use songs.

Issue #1...most importantly, my life at home. It is in shambles, and has finally come to a crossroads. Decisions have been made, soon it will be permanent. This song says it best I think:



This saddens me...but well, the song says it all I think.

Another thing in my life that I haven't been able to find the words for. Maybe seeing the above will help bring some clarity to that other situation, as to why I haven't been able to find a way to deal with it, not that I don't WANT to...just can't handle any additional stress now :( Here is a song for you:



What do I want out of life? This song has always made me cry because it is what I strive for, maybe someday now I will find it:



For now....can we pretend that airplanes in the night sky are like shooting stars?? I could really use a wish right now, wish right now, wish right now....

Bristol Baby!

So, this past week has for sure been eventful!!! We left last Tuesday for a family camping trip in Bristol, TN for some nascar racing short track style! woohoo!! We are on a budget, so it was tent camping and well...it was a bit rough! Check out our campsite:


We did at least eat well all week...lol


check out my kids in their very own tent...they loved it!



Wednesday night was the modified race and truck race...we went! Was my first time at a modified race, was definetly interesting!!! A few pics of mods and trucks...




here is kevin harvick winning truck race..which was first time my kids ever saw anyone other than kyle busch in victory lane!



Thursday was a big day! We originally planned to go to downtown Bristol the street fair, but some of my twitter friends invited us to hang out with them instead and catch the monster truck car crunch later that night....so we did that instead ;)While we were there, we got to meet Jennifer Jo Cobb..


Good THING! While we were at the monster truck thingy, what are the odds they were giving out a ride in teh monster truck driven by no other than my most favorite nascar driver Brian Scott! All I had to do to win was catch a tshirt that was being launched by one of those shirt launcher things. (easy right? lol) So one was being launched, and it was coming my way...i was gonna catch it...until it went over my head..ugh! I saw some guys wrestling over it, and debated jumping in, until i saw that one of them was my husband! ha! he was wrestling some dude for the shirt...and he got it! YAY!!! So...I went and got my wristband and instructions to come back the next day for my ride with Brian! On the way back to camp, we watched the hauler parade...alexis got very excited when Kasey Kahnes hauler drove by...


Friday...what a big day! My big day ;) Seemed like it took forever for it to be time to head over for my big monster truck ride with Brian...lol... but...it finally got here!
First, my kids got to ride in the monster truck with daddy with just the normal driver...


then Brian arrived...*sigh*
and as i was waiting for our time to get on the truck...
couldn't resist!

here is my fav from my seat in the truck:


oh yeah, and i videod the ride!!



After my ride, the kids finally got to meet Brian...this was so exciting for me!


and here we all are:




Nationwide race time...look who's pitstall was in front of our seats...


we had good seats too..check out our view:


guess who won?? kyle busch...lol...alexis was NOT happy...she may have thrown a small tantrum and hid under her chair for a while...



Brian came in 10th that night (woohoo! top 10!) and for some reason, i decided it would be a good idea to do 10 pudding shots for his 10th place finish

(these are pudding shots..yum!)
and this was on top of the million other shots/drinks i had already had after my meeting with brian....i was a little excited...lol)

Saturday started off a little rough...wonder why?! haha!
Cup race day...yay!
Im not as enthusiastic about the cup race sicne Brian races nationwide...but still..it's the cup race! woohoo!

my second favorite #11 car:


kids were thrilled when Brad Kesolowski won (again...not kyle busch!)


post race fireworks:


and then, we would have been heading home teh next day....had hurricane irene not slammed our hometown! Jaime thought that he'd rather go to his parents for a few days in case anything was still bad back here in norfolk, or maybe everyone who had evacuated would all be trying to get home, and well, he didn't want to sit in traffic! So....after a 2 day sidetrip, we are finally home safe and sound, and happy to report, my house is in perfect shape! woohoo!
and...in just less than 2 weeks, i'm going to Richmond for another race weekend...lol...funny how that works out eh?

so that's my fun story ;) happy to be home! and in a few days, i'll have my cell back...yeah, it broke while we were down there (no fault of mine!)

Now maybe someday I will get back in my craft room eh? it's long overdue!
thanks for visiting my blog today!